If you are being abused:
- Call 911 if you are in danger.
- Use the internet, your wireless phone, and GPS devices with care. All can monitored by an abuser.
- Talk with a friend, relative, anyone you trust and think will be supportive.
- Call a domestic violence hotline for assistance.
- Talk to a health care provider about your injuries.
- Call a shelter and find out about options available to you.
- Create a personalized safety plan.
- Pack an emergency bag containing an extra set of clothing, extra cash, identification (such as birth certificates, social security cards, immunization records), financial records, keys (house/car), address book, etc. Keep the bag in a safe place where the abuser will not find it.
- Keep a cell phone or change for phone calls with you at all times. (Contact DCADV or a local domestic violence advocate to find out how to get an emergency HopeLine phone.)
- Remember, you are not alone. No one deserves to be abused.
Increase your safety by:
- Obtaining a Protection From Abuse Order (PFA) and keeping it with you at all times and giving copies to friends and neighbors to show the police.
- Doing whatever it takes to form your own support network (attend support groups, get counseling).
- Changing the locks.
- Installing as many security features as possible in your home (alarm system, smoke detectors, motion detector lights).
- Making sure that childcare givers are clear about who has permission to pick up your children.
- Using an answering machine at home to screen your calls and having your calls at work screened.
- Avoiding places that the abuser knows you will be (grocery stores, banks, businesses, etc).
- Letting your neighbors, friends, family, and coworkers know about the situation and asking them to warn you if they observe that the abuser is around.
- Keeping this information in a safe but accessible location:
Important phone numbers:
Police: 911 or _______________________
Local Domestic Violence Hotline:__________________________
My attorney: ________________________
My doctor: __________________________
I can call these friends or relatives in an emergency:
Name: _____________Phone: _________________
Name: _____________Phone: _________________
I can go here if I have to leave my home in a hurry:
Name: __________ Phone: __________
Address:_____________________________